I support women with low self-esteem and anxiety…
to work through their self-worth issues, understand themselves better, and use therapeutic tools to feel more confident, empowered and content.
I’ve written on the topic of self-esteem and wellbeing for:
Where better self-esteem begins…
Living with low self-esteem can really hold you back. It can cause you to stay in relationships that aren’t working, stop you from pursuing the opportunities you want, and keep you stuck in a life that’s just not right for you. No one wants to wake at 3am, pondering their choices, but feeling too fearful to make the changes needed.
That’s where I come in. While working with me, you’ll explore your issues at depth, gather insight into what’s really keeping you stuck and gain the tools and self-belief to become more confident, aligned and empowered within yourself.
My services are completely centred around you. Whether you opt for in person or at home counselling I provide a safe, compassionate and non-judgemental space for you to thrive and grow within.
I know it can feel like a massive, scary leap to come to counselling. After all, who wants to feel vulnerable and exposed in front of a stranger (even a highly qualified and compassionate one)?
To help put your mind at rest you can book a 30 minute discovery call with me, completely free. This will give you a chance to check out whether I could be the right counsellor for you, and see if you have a rapport and feel comfortable talking to me.
Not quite ready to get in touch?
If you’re not quite ready for a discovery call yet, I’ve still got plenty of support for you. You can sign up to receive a copy of my free downloadable 3 Instant Tools to Build Inner Confidence.
Or you can head over to my FAQ page, where I’ve answered all the questions you could possibly ever want to know about counselling. If your question’s not there, then email me directly and I’ll get back to you.
I also have the self-esteem blog that’s updated weekly, where I offer my thoughts on anything related to self-worth, counselling and mental health. And just recently I’ve made it on to Instagram too, so I’d love to connect with you there.
Lastly, I think it’s only fair you’d want to know more about me before you’d consider choosing me as your counsellor. I want you to feel at ease from the start, so head to the About Me page to find out what I’m like inside and outside the counselling room.
ABOUT ME
My Blog
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3 Takeaways from my Mental Health Awareness Training
3 steps to easily achieving goals
Self-Betrayal and how it impacts your self-worth
Juggling Childcare and your Summer holiday self-worth
Getting out of the Sludge Zone
The high cost of low self-esteem
Your therapist goes on holiday and you feel abandoned
Book review: Joan Didion Notes to John
People pleasing is not kindness but survival
The dark and dirty thrill of the ‘hate follow’
Maintaining self-esteem when you feel stuck
Book review: The Kitchen Shrink by Dr Andrea Oskis
Self-esteem when you feel your body is failing you
Orthorexia, and its impact on women
Help! I can’t manage my moods
Therapy curious? Here’s everything you need to know
Self-esteem: Knowing exactly what works for you
World Mental Health Awareness Week 2025
The challenges to good self care (and how to overcome them)
The mental barriers stopping you from getting therapy
Self-esteem and neurodiversity
Forgiveness and self-esteem
3 surprising signs of low self-esteem
How to manage counselling when you find talking hard
Book Review: Do Nourish How to Eat for Resilience
Managing your mental health in the winter months
Rethinking divorce and separation
What you need to know if you’re thinking of starting counselling
Book review: Directional Living by Megan Hellerer
Help, I’m spiraling into depression
The benefits of low self-esteem
Surviving Christmas after loss or bereavment
Book Review: Not Just Mum by Claire Antill
Depression and low self esteem
Building self esteem by speaking out
What to expect from your first counselling session with me
Haunted by bad memories? Here’s how to move on
Book review: The power of Closure
5 things I’ve learnt in 5 years as a women’s self esteem specialist
Self loss and the path to rediscovery
Self-Esteem Faqs
Myths about therapy
Why counselling after a relationship break-up is a great idea
Book review: It’s on me by Dr Sara Kuburic
The lady vanishes – self-esteem and ageing
Getting good at self care, because you need to
Yoga, inclusivity and improved self esteem
Why your looks don’t matter as much as you think
Body confidence and self esteem
Inside Out 2: Therapy for adults
Meaningful connection and why it matters
Book review: How to Know a Person
Self-esteem and Separation
I Love mental health, but hate Mental Health Awareness Week
Social media and self-esteem. Why not take a break?
Self-esteem and motherhood